The road to healing for a sexually addicted man or woman can be long and difficult. When that man or woman is married, they also have to consider the healing their spouse needs. If you’ve been unfaithful either through pornography use or in an extra-marital affair, here are five things you can do to help your spouse heal: Tell her or him the whole truth. Too often when infidelity comes to light...
The current message trending is, “Do what you need to do in order to avoid pain.” The world we live in is confused about the meaning of feelings, the role of feelings, and who gets to feel what feelings. Since our capacity for sexual purity is so closely connected to our emotional health, this conversation matters. Culturally, there have been different expectations for men and women when it comes...
If you’re struggling compulsively with an unwanted sexual behavior, you may have a difficult time receiving the thing you most need. Mike certainly did. I met with Mike a few months ago and listened as he talked about his love of God and his intense desire to share the truth of Jesus with a lost world. At the same time, Mike was incredibly hard on himself. Reading into the way Mike talked about...
Quitting pornography (or any unwanted sexual habit) is tough, no doubt about it. But accountability partners make it tougher than it has to be when they slip into one or more of these three mistakes—or rather, these three pairs of mistakes, because for each mistake, there’s an opposite that’s just as problematic. Take a look and see if your accountability relationships slip into any of these:...
Imagine for a moment a father sits down on the couch next to his five-year-old daughter, who is watching one of her favorite cartoons, a show about a little girl and her talking horse. In the middle of the show, the horse turns to the little girl and says firmly, “Girls are clueless, so if you want anyone to love you, you have to learn to be sexy.” Ugh. That’s bad. But now imagine that the dad...
The noise is getting louder. We live in a world full of voices making claims. Claims about what car is the most reliable. Claims about which diet plan is the healthiest. Claims about who has the right to what land. Claims about who should lead. Wars have been fought over such things. They still are. Those who win take the keys and move in, while the defeated move out or bend their knee to serve...
