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marriage

08 Jan

No More Mr. Elsewhere

I’ve got a place I want to spend more time in 2014. And I want to invite you to join me. The place is right here, right now. Wherever that . . .

04 Nov

Out from the Bunker

When something bad happens to other people, I’ve noticed an internal knee-jerk reaction: I try to assure myself that what’s happening to them can’t happen to me. He’s older and . . .

23 Oct

Walking

More than ever, we’re being asked where we stand regarding sex and sexuality. Here’s my brief reply.

16 Oct

Vagabond

If you’ve seen an alleyway lined with blankets and cardboard boxes or an underpass flickering with the light of empty oil drum fires, you’ve had a glimpse of a vagabond fellowship. It’s a place where the beat down and broken find an accepting community, but one where they remain broken.

25 Sep

Better

I’ve been noticing a crazy idea floating around in my head and heart. It’s one of those ideas that’s gone on undetected and unchallenged, like background noise that’s so familiar . . .

03 Sep

Touch

For many men where I live, a handshake is the greeting of choice, sometimes even among close friends. One of my friends rejects this norm openly. If I reach out . . .

16 Aug

Lust Makes You Fat

I talked with a man last week whose wife has started limiting sweets to only one day a week. I found what he shared to be such a compelling idea for dessert lovers, and I can’t help but think about the parallels to dealing with sexual desire.

02 Aug

How to Keep Relief from Ruining You

We live in a culture addicted to relief. Whether aspirin, TV, workaholism, gossip, food, or porn, we run to relief at every turn. Why not? If we can experience relief now, why . . .