Pastors, you’re carrying a lot.
You’re caring for people, leading staff, preparing sermons, making decisions, and navigating a constant stream of needs.
And you’re shepherding people in an era with increasingly complex questions around sexuality, relationships, identity, pornography, betrayal, and sexual brokenness. The pressure and intensity can feel overwhelming. You don’t have to become an expert on all of it.
Regeneration Ministries exists to come alongside you—helping individuals in your congregation directly, equipping your leaders for difficult conversations, and creating a confidential place for you to receive care too. We’ve tried to make it simple.
“As a pastor, I know lots of people wrestling with unwanted sexual practices in their own lives or in the lives of people they love. Sometimes the needs are beyond the capacity or expertise of our in-house team. I’ve been glad to refer friends and congregants to Regeneration Ministries over the years. Regen stands in the deep, center current of historic Christianity with respect to views of sexuality and they draw on contemporary methods in curricula and care with great results. If you, or someone you care for could use help in this area, I’d heartily recommend Regeneration.”
-Ian McFadden (Saint Moses Church)
You don’t have to become an expert on all of it.
Regeneration Ministries exists to come alongside you—helping individuals in your congregation directly, equipping your leaders for difficult conversations, and creating a confidential place for you to receive care too. We’ve tried to make it simple.
Equipping your leaders to engage in conversations around sexuality with wisdom and grace.
We know you will have questions…
see our FAQ to get started.
Will this create problems we don’t currently have?
In most churches, sexual struggles already exist—quietly. Addressing them thoughtfully tends to reduce harm, secrecy, and crisis rather than create them.
Do you replace pastoral care?
No. We come alongside pastors and leaders, offering specialized support that complements—not competes with—your shepherding role.
Is this only for churches in crisis?
Not at all. Some of the healthiest partnerships begin proactively, before a major situation arises.
How much control do we retain?
You remain in the driver’s seat. We collaborate with you to discern what is appropriate for your church’s theology, culture, and capacity.
What if we’re not ready to do much?
That’s okay. Many churches start with a single conversation, a leader training, or a seminar. There is no pressure to move faster than you’re ready.
A TRUSTED PATHWAY TO CARE
When someone in your congregation needs help navigating through sexual sin or brokenness, you don’t have to have all the time, expertise, or focus they’ll need. Simply connect them with Regeneration.
Through personalized coaching, we’ll listen to their story, help them understand what may be happening beneath the surface, and discern the right mix of content, community, and counsel for where they are. And you can trust that the care they’ll receive will always align with biblical, historic, Christian teaching on God’s design for sex.
Their first coaching session is always free.
Some people sitting in your church are carrying things they haven’t told anyone. They may not be ready to approach a pastor or friend on Sunday morning—but they may be ready to quietly look for help somewhere else. You can’t keep them from seeking, but you can make sure they have access to a trusted resource. Before they’re ready to bring it up on a Sunday morning, they may be ready to take a card, scan a QR code, and reach out.
With Regeneration, you can be assured the help they seek will lead them deeper in their Christian faith, not away from it. Making these resources available creates a quiet pathway to care.
Request a church care kit (SUBMISSION FORM). Your Church Care Kit includes discreet referral cards for your church bathrooms and other private spaces.
Or visit one of our coaching pages – For Men | For Women
** Beyond our personalized care, we also offer Church Essentials—ready-to-go talks drawn from Regeneration’s core areas of expertise. Choose the topics most relevant to your church, and we’ll bring focused, practical training directly to your staff, congregation, or ministry groups.
Understand. Engage. Transform.
You are shepherding people through a hyper-sexualized digital world in ways previous generations of pastors never had to face. That is not easy work, and we are grateful for your faithfulness. We know these conversations can feel complex, tender, and overwhelming. We hope to serve as a trusted resource as your team discerns how to engage these topics with greater clarity and care. You are not alone.
The more we talk about sexuality, the more permission we give others to talk about sexuality.
Our world speaks loudly and frequently about sex. Our hope is Christians speak with equal clarity and consistency, but from a biblical framework marked by hope and love. When pastors and leaders create a culture of honest, wise, grace-filled conversation, you communicate something important: It’s okay to talk about this here. And when what has been hidden can come into the light, new opportunities for Christian discipleship, healing, and formation emerge.
For some churches, these conversations are already underway. For others, it can feel overwhelming to know where to begin. Wherever you’re starting from, we want to help your team engage these conversations with continued clarity, wisdom, and care. Our desire is to support your team with language, tools, and next steps that help these conversations become more accessible, consistent, and less intimidating.
Our three-part staff training series, “Pastoring Boldly” helps your team:
UNDERSTAND the cultural landscape and the stories people are carrying.
ENGAGE in conversations around sexuality with continued wisdom, confidence, and compassion.
TRANSFORM church culture so sexuality becomes a topic of ongoing discipleship and spiritual formation.
The goal isn’t to turn your staff into sexuality experts nor to overemphasize sex. It’s to increase your church’s capacity to have these conversations and shepherd people in this area, just as you do in other areas of life.
Confidential, Coaching & Consultation
You spend a lot of your life providing care and guidance for other people. But where do you go?
People bring you their marriage struggles, addictions, questions, pain, secrets, and complicated situations. And pastoral ministry can be a lonely place to carry your own questions—especially when they involve sexuality or struggle.
That’s why Regeneration offers free, confidential, one-to-one coaching and consultation for pastors and ministry leaders.
Maybe there’s something in your own life you’d value a confidential place to process. Maybe something from an earlier season is resurfacing. Maybe you have questions and aren’t sure who to ask. Or maybe you simply want space to start or continue growing in sexual integrity and wholeness.
Your life changed when you became a pastor, but your need for ongoing formation and support didn’t.
Regeneration is here to partner with the local church, and our coaching and consultation services for pastors are designed specifically for you.
It’s free. It’s confidential. And it’s available to you. No obligation. Just an invitation. Check out our FAQ section below for more of the details.
Ready to Connect?
Reach out to one of our Church Care Liaisons below.
You choose your point person—someone you feel comfortable connecting with—who will personally walk you through your intake. Rather than going through our general intake system, your liaison remains your confidential point of contact, helping keep the circle small and the process personal. They’ll set up your free access and personally connect you with one of our coaches.
Send one of us an email, and we’ll follow up with you from there.
* Thanks to the generosity of our donors, we are currently able to offer our specialized coaching and consultation for free to pastors, ministry leaders, and church staff in the Baltimore region.
Funding for this initiative is renewed year to year, so the availability and scope of this coaching may change in the future as we continue to fundraise and grow this work.*
Greg Ruhland
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Regeneration’s specialized sexual integrity coaching for pastors, ministry leaders, and church staff in the Baltimore region.
You spend much of your life creating space for other people to walk free from sin and heal from brokenness.
But where do you go?
Sometimes you need help caring for someone in your church. Sometimes you need a place to care for your own soul.
We’re here for both.
At Regeneration, we offer free* coaching and consultation around sexuality, relationships, personal formation, and the challenges you encounter caring for others.
No referral. No church approval. No payment.
Just reach out and start a conversation.
Is it confidential?
Yes. And we’ve designed the process that way intentionally. Your coaching or consultation is completely confidential. The only exception to this is if you tell us you are at risk of harming yourself or someone else, particularly if children are involved. And because it’s free, there are no invoices to submit, reimbursements to explain, or charges appearing on a church or home credit card.
We’ve also intentionally limited who on our team needs to know that you’re reaching out.
YOU CHOOSE YOUR POINT PERSON.
When you begin, you choose which of our Church Care Liaisons you would like to coordinate your intake. That person will be the only member of our Church Care team who is aware of your intake.
They’ll connect with you privately, hear what you’re looking for, and help you determine the best next step. From there, they’ll help connect you with one of our Regeneration coaches, and your specialized coaching will be scheduled and managed through SimplePractice, a confidential, HIPAA compliant online platform.
In other words, you don’t enter through a broad ministry referral process or have your story passed around our team.
You choose your point person, and we keep the circle as small as possible. And because we serve pastors through the broad umbrella of coaching and consultation, anyone in your circles who learns you’re connecting with Regeneration doesn’t know why.
Maybe you’re consulting with us about someone in your congregation.
Maybe you’re wrestling with a ministry question.
Maybe you need a place to explore something happening in your own life.
That’s yours to share, not ours.
Are you safe people?
We think that’s a question you should get to answer.
We understand that trust isn’t something we can ask you to assume. It’s something we have the opportunity to earn.
So get to know us.
Come to one of our Pastors Quarterly gatherings. Meet our team. Have lunch with us. Listen to the Regeneration podcast and hear how we talk about sexuality, brokenness, grace, formation, and freedom.
Take your time. Pay attention. Discern for yourself:
Could these be people I trust with my story?
We hope the answer becomes yes.
Will it actually help?
45+ YEARS OF WALKING WITH PEOPLE
For more than 45 years, Regeneration has helped men and women pursue sexual integrity, healing, freedom, and greater wholeness.
We’ve walked with people through pornography, unwanted sexual behavior, shame, betrayal, questions around sexuality and identity, relationship struggles, and the deeper places underneath our attractions and behaviors.
And we’ve learned something important:
No two stories are the same.
That’s why we don’t begin with a program. We begin with you. We’ll listen to your story, help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and discern the right mix of content, community, and counsel for where you are right now.
Because lasting change is about more than trying harder, we’ll help you move beyond the “shoulds” and willpower to notice God’s invitations and experience greater grace and deeper freedom.
The goal isn’t simply better behavior. It’s greater freedom, deeper wholeness, and a more grace-filled life with God and others.
Can I be a pastor and a person?
Ministry creates some unique pressures.
People look to you for wisdom. They trust you. They may put you on a pedestal without realizing it.
And somewhere along the way, it can become difficult to know where you’re allowed to still be in process.
We’re in ministry too. While we don’t pretend to understand every pressure of pastoring a local church, we understand the broader tensions of ministry—the expectations, the visibility, the responsibility, and the temptation to believe you should already have certain things figured out.
We don’t believe leaders need less space for formation. We believe they need more.
One of the mistakes we’ve seen in the Christian sexual-integrity world is what happens when leaders become “success stories.” We put people on pedestals and unintentionally take away their permission to keep growing.
We don’t want that for you.
You are still being formed.
You are still being sanctified.
And even when you’re doing well sexually, God may invite you deeper.
Old wounds may surface in new ways. Questions about desire, intimacy, relationships, identity, or your own story may emerge as God expands your maturity and influence.
That doesn’t necessarily mean something has gone wrong.
Sometimes what surfaces is an invitation to go deeper.
You deserve a place where you don’t have to perform, protect a reputation, or have all the answers.
A place to be honest.
A place to explore what’s happening beneath the surface.
A place to discern what God might be doing.
A place to keep becoming whole.
Do I need to be struggling?
Sometimes you’re here for someone else. You don’t need to be personally struggling to reach out to us.
Maybe someone in your congregation just disclosed something, and you’re not sure what to do next.
Maybe a marriage is unraveling because of sexual betrayal.
Maybe a staff member is struggling with pornography.
Maybe questions around sexuality or gender have surfaced in your church and you need a thoughtful place to process how to respond.
Maybe someone’s confession lifted a burden from their shoulders but left you reeling.
Call us.
You don’t have to become an expert in every area of sexuality in order to shepherd people well.
We can help you think through what you’re encountering, discern appropriate next steps, and connect people with additional care when needed.
And because consultation and personal coaching happen under the same broad umbrella, you don’t have to explain which kind of conversation you’re having with us.